Reine Duell Bethany - Author and Illustrator
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Training Your Toddler to Join a Gang

Every person has the sense that he or she possesses something, that possessions (tangible or intangible) can be taken away, and that retaining possessions requires active self-defense.
      If a child is not trained to (1) keep what he or she legitimately has and (2) allow others to keep what they legitimately have, then the child is training for gang life.
     Parents who are immature will take away a child's possessions for their own use. Such parents also take away a child's self-development time. I have seen parents who act as if their children are nothing but built-in servants. I'm not saying that children shouldn't be made to do their fair share of helping around the house, but I am saying that the oldest shouldn't be treated as a built-in baby sitter, nor the younger ones as automatic go-fers for whoever is older. Furthermore, the child's possessions shouldn't be treated as if they belong to whichever older person wants them.
     Such treatment really is training for gang life: might makes right, the strongest gets the possessions, the weaker must fulfill subservient roles and suffer unjustly harsh punishment for protesting injustices. A child raised this way, who reaches age 12 with little sense of self-achievement -- worse, with a record of school failure -- is ripe for gang involvement.
     

2 Comments to Training Your Toddler to Join a Gang:

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eumas on Tuesday, June 28, 2016 2:14 AM
I'm not saying that youngsters shouldn't be made to do what's coming to them of aiding around the house, however I am stating that the most established shouldn't be dealt with as an implicit sitter, nor the more youthful ones as programmed go-fers for whoever is more seasoned.
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Reine Duell Bethany on Wednesday, June 29, 2016 7:31 AM
Hello, Eumas, It sounds like you are agreeing with what I have said. Using the power aspect of the parenting relationship is a temptation that always has to be resisted. Children are meant to develop their own lives, not be used for their parents' lives, right?

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